A complete timeline of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s relationship
- Jennifer Lopez filed for divorce from Ben Affleck in August after months of speculation that they split.
- She listed April 26, 2024 as the date of their separation.
- The “Gigli” costars originally dated from 2002 to 2004, got back together in July 2021, and wed a year later.
Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck‘s rekindled romance seemed like a fairytale when they got married almost 20 years after they split.
But the dream is over. In August, multiple outlets reported that Lopez filed for divorce in Los Angeles County Superior Court — exactly two years after the pair’s lavish wedding in Georgia.
Here’s a timeline of their relationship from how they met to where things started to go wrong.
Affleck starred as the titular character, a mobster named Larry Gigli, and Lopez portrayed a gangster named Ricki.
Predictably, their characters fell in love and ended up together by the conclusion of the critically panned movie.
At the time, Lopez was married to Cris Judd, her second husband (she was briefly married to Ojani Noa prior to that). She and Judd met on the set of her music video for “Love Don’t Cost a Thing” and wed in September 2001.
In an interview with Vanity Fair for a feature released in March 2003, Affleck denied speculation that he and Lopez acted romantic with each other while she was married.
“When I met her we became really, really, really good friends,” Affleck said.
He continued: “But at first, because she was married, there was no thought of a romantic relationship, so that created the opportunity to get to know each other without any of the falseness that goes with courtship because you’re trying to make a good impression.”
Affleck said that neither of them changed aspects of themselves, and they “became really good friends in a way that was very comfortable.”
“With Jen, I thought, Even though it can never happen, it was nice for me to know I was capable of feeling that way — that I could love somebody in a way where what I really wanted was for them to be happy, even more than I wanted what I wanted,” he added. “That was a new experience for me.”
Affleck wrote: “You have shown kindness, dedication, diligence, humility, graciousness of spirit, beauty in courage, great empathy, astonishing talent, real poise and true grace…It has been nothing but an honor and a pleasure to work with you. I only wish I were lucky enough to be in all your movies.”
He also signed the ad: ”With love, respect and gratitude, Ben Affleck.”
Of the big gesture, Affleck later told Vanity Fair that Lopez “had developed this reputation as a diva and a pain in the ass,” and he wanted to publicly voice his support of her and “counteract” that narrative.
“She works harder than anybody I’ve ever seen,” he said. “I thought I was busy with movies and television and writing; I felt pretty maxed out until I met her. She was doing all that and recording albums on weekends!”
Lopez cited irreconcilable differences as their reason for ending their marriage.
“Jennifer Lopez and Cris Judd have announced they have resolved all issues arising out of their marriage. The resolution was extremely amicable,” their lawyer said in a statement shared by People.
Affleck told Vanity Fair that he wasn’t aware of marital issues between Lopez and Judd because she never mentioned it during their conversations.
“We would hang out, but I talked about me all the time: ‘Enough about you!’ I was vaguely aware she had something going on, but I was too busy running off my mouth,” he said.
“It changed when she told me she was getting separated,” Affleck said about when things changed between them. “At that point, it became a possibility; doors were opened.”
The music video drew inspiration from the couple’s real-life experience of being scrutinized by the public and being hounded by paparazzi.
It showed them making out on a yacht and holding up a tabloid that included chatter about them.
The film was directed by Kevin Smith, who later said that he coined the term “Bennifer” — the couple’s hybrid nickname. Smith said he gave Lopez and Affleck the moniker “during ‘Jersey Girl’ pre-production, before the world found out they were dating.”
In the movie, Lopez portrayed Affleck’s wife who died while giving birth to their daughter.
The couple spilled all the details on Affleck’s “traditional” proposal and the custom-made, six-carat pink diamond engagement ring from Harry Winston.
“It’s just a blanket, a quilt of rose petals, all over the whole entire house,” Lopez said of the unexpected proposal that took place in Boston. “So many candles, and vases, bouquets. And my song ‘Glad’ was playing … I walk in and I was just overwhelmed. I wasn’t expecting it, and I was just like ‘Oh my God.'”
Lopez said that she began “sobbing” as he read a handwritten letter listing the reasons he loved her and wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. She got even more emotional when she saw the pink diamond, which was her favorite stone.
“I had cried a lot over sadness over the years,” she said during the interview. “And for the first time in my life, I cried incredible purging tears of happiness. It was the most cleansing feeling and the most wonderful feeling I had ever had.”
The “On the Floor” singer also described Affleck as “brilliantly smart…. Loving. Charming. Affectionate. And I just admire him in every way. I respect him. I feel like he teaches me things.” crazy life and needing a sense of security.”
“This Is Me… Then” featured tracks like “Jenny From the Block” and “All I Have.” The album also included a song called “Dear Ben,” which was a love letter to the actor.
The event took place at the Village Theatre in Los Angeles and the film was released on February 14.
Affleck also posed on the red carpet with costars Colin Farrell, Michael Clarke Duncan, and Jennifer Garner — who he’d go on to marry.
At the time, Garner was married to “Felicity” costar Scott Foley. Their nuptials took place in October 2000 and Garner filed for divorce in May 2003. Foley later told TV Guide that there was no infidelity involved.
“Jennifer is a really wonderful, fabulous woman, smart and interesting,” he told the publication. “Spending time with her makes me a better person and a happier person. She impresses me every day. It feels better to me to be with her than without her.”
He added: “Jen and I want to get married for the reason everyone else does: we fell in love. I’m in love; I want to have a family; and she’s the only person I’ve ever met who made me entertain the thought of doing that.”
The “Gone Girl” star said that he didn’t understand the public’s obsession with the relationship, but had an idea why people were so interested.
“I think it has to do with race and class, the fact that I’m white and she’s Puerto Rican,” he said. “That’s what’s underneath, although nobody says it, because it’s not politically correct.”
Affleck also said that people made incorrect assumptions about Lopez’s romantic life because she was “characterized as oversexed.”
“Jen has had fewer boyfriends than your average high-school junior,” he said. “In the physical sense, she’s extremely chaste.”
He added: “She’s had a much simpler, more easily explainable, more clean romantic history than I have. She can tell the whole story in 15 minutes, whereas I always preface the whole story with ‘It was complicated …'”
Affleck also said that race was a factor, because “there’s a kind of language that’s used about her — the spicy Latina, the tempestuous diva. She’s characterized as oversexed.”
“She’s a deeply misunderstood woman, in my opinion,” he said.
During the hourlong “Dateline” NBC special hosted by Pat O’Brien of “Access Hollywood,” the couple recalled not really knowing each other prior to working together on “Gigli.”
“We met at a couple of the parties,” Lopez said. “You know, we barely paid any attention to each other at all.”
Lopez insisted that they were “really good friends” on the set of “Gigli.”
“We talked a lot and that’s the thing,” she said. “There was no kind of idea that we would be together in the future, so it was one of those things where you kind of like say too much.”
She added: “It felt like we had good chemistry. He likes to improv. I could improv back. He’s the best person to improv in the whole entire business, he’s so funny.”
Lopez also said that there wasn’t an exact moment when they fell in love.
“You can’t pinpoint it. It was like we became friends first, that is the honest-to-god truth,” she said.
Elsewhere in the interview, the singer said that she’d maintain her surname professionally, but would technically take Affleck’s last name.
Affleck, a Boston native and vocal Red Sox fan, also said that he was opposed to their family being supporters of the New York Yankees — the team that originates in Lopez’s hometown.
“The Mets is fine. I could put up with the Mets. The Mets I could live with,” he said. “Pinstripes can’t be in the house.”
In the years that followed, Lopez spoke about the difficulties that followed.
“I think the worst, probably lowest point was the whole ‘Gigli’ era. It was pretty tough,” she said in a 2015 interview with “HuffPost Live,” according to E! News.
“It was a very badly reviewed film,” she elaborated. “I was in a high-profile relationship at the time that fell apart in a really bad way, and so the kind of mix of those two things and the tabloid press had just come into existence at the time, so I was like a poster child for that moment.”
She added: “I was in the tabloids every other week about how my life was falling apart. It was a tough time.”
Despite the hardships, Lopez said that she had “no regrets.”
“I would do it all over again, I think,” she said. “I really would. Even the relationship part. “
In an interview with Vanity Fair in 2017, the star said that she was “eviscerated” by that period in her life.
“I lost my sense of self, questioned if I belonged in this business, thought maybe I did suck at everything,” she said. “And my relationship [with Affleck] self-destructed in front of the entire world. It was a two-year thing for me until I picked myself up again.”
According to People, the couple was supposed to marry in Santa Barbara but pushed it back shortly before the planned date.
“Due to the excessive media attention surrounding our wedding, we have decided to postpone the date,” they said in a statement. “When we found ourselves seriously contemplating hiring three separate ‘decoy brides’ at three different locations, we realized that something was awry.”
They continued: “We began to feel that the spirit of what should have been the happiest day of our lives could be compromised. We felt what should have been a joyful and sacred day could be spoiled for us, our families and our friends.”
The announcement wasn’t entirely surprising to fans, who noticed that Affleck went solo to events and Lopez was spotted sans her engagement ring.
“Jennifer Lopez has ended her engagement to Ben Affleck,” a rep for the singer said, per People. “At this difficult time, we ask that you respect her privacy.”
While it wasn’t as despised by critics as “Gigli,” the film still received poor reviews.
The ceremony took place in her Beverly Hills home and had a small guest list.
Lopez and Anthony welcomed twins named Max and Emme on February 22, 2008.
In July 2011, the pair revealed their split.
“This was a very difficult decision,” they said in a joint statement. “We have come to an amicable conclusion on all matters. It is a painful time for all involved and we appreciate the respect of our privacy at this time.”
A few months later, in December 2005, the couple welcomed their first child, a daughter named Violet.
Garner gave birth to two more children: daughter Seraphina in January 2009 and son Samuel in February 2012.
In June 2015, the couple revealed their breakup after being married for a decade.
“After much thought and careful consideration, we have made the difficult decision to divorce,” their statement to People read. “We go forward with love and friendship for one another and a commitment to co-parenting our children whose privacy we ask to be respected during this difficult time.”
“I love Ben, he’s a great guy, but it was a lot for both of us to be under that type of siege for two years straight,” she said. “We were on the cover of every magazine, every week, it was just a weird thing.”
Lopez continued: “Our relationship, I think, did suffer because of that. That’s not the only reason. I would never blame the media for anything, but I think it definitely played a part in the dynamic of our relationship.”
Appearing on Katie Couric’s talk show, “Katie,” the singer said that it wasn’t awkward running into exes Diddy and Affleck at the Golden Globes that year.
“We run in the same circles,” she said. “I do see them. The world doesn’t know that I see them. I don’t go, ‘Hey, I ran into Diddy today.’ I don’t tweet that kind of stuff. But I do run into them.”
“We talk and we email, more email than anything,” Lopez added of keeping in touch with Affleck.
Lopez said that she was “happy” for Affleck after his film “Argo,” which he directed, produced, and starred in, won two awards at the event: best drama motion picture and best director.
The singer called the film “one of the best pictures of the year” and said that she gave him a standing ovation when he won.
“Ben and I split up at the moment when I thought we were committing to each other forever, it was my first real heartbreak, it felt like my heart had been torn out of my chest,” she wrote, per Page Six.
Lopez said that she “sought out comfort in another person.”
“Marc came back into my life three days after I should have been at the altar saying ‘I do’ to another man,” she wrote.
“We didn’t try to have a public relationship,” she said in an interview with Jess Cagle, the editorial director at People and Entertainment Weekly. “We just happened to be together at the birth of the tabloids, and it was like ‘Oh my God.’ It was just a lot of pressure.”
She added: “I think different time different thing, who knows what could’ve happened, but there was a genuine love there.”
“When the tabloids were out and we were being hounded by paparazzi constantly, it was a really hard time,” she said during part one of her documentary for MTV called “The Ride.”
“I remember being on the cover of those tabloids for two years straight and it was brutal,” she added. “I think it absolutely contributed to the demise of our relationship and the love that we had. There was so much judgment and pressure and scrutiny and opinions and it was just a really, really hard thing to deal with.”
She shared similar thoughts months later during an interview with “CBS This Morning,” in which she said that the media attention was “scary” and “overwhelming” for her and Affleck.
He praised his ex during an interview with The New York Times, but the quotes never made it into the feature. The reporter, Brooks Barnes, shared the comment in a thread on X (formerly known as Twitter) with other quotes that didn’t make the cut.
“She should have been nominated,” Affleck said. “She’s the real thing. I keep in touch periodically with her and have a lot of respect for her. How awesome is it that she had her biggest hit movie at 50? That’s fucking baller.”
“People were so fucking mean about her — sexist, racist,” he said during The Hollywood Reporter’s “Awards Chatter” podcast. “Ugly, vicious shit was written about her in ways that if you wrote it now you would literally be fired for saying those things you said.”
Affleck said that nowadays, Lopez is more respected for her achievements.
“I would say you have a better shot, coming from the Bronx, of ending up as [Justice Sonia] Sotomayor on the Supreme Court than you do of having Jennifer Lopez’s career and being who she is at 50 years old today,” he said.
People and E! News were among the publications that reported the breakup in January 2021. According to a source who spoke to People, de Armas ended the relationship.
The two stars met while filming the upcoming psychological thriller “Deep Water” in New Orleans, Louisiana, in 2019.
Throughout the pandemic, they were frequently photographed while going on walks together in LA. The “Blonde” star also spent time with Affleck’s kids whom he shares with Garner.
De Armas made their relationship Instagram official in April 2020 when she posted a photo of the “Justice League” star with his arms around her waist, celebrating her 32nd birthday.
After their breakup was revealed, paparazzi saw a life-size cutout of de Armas being thrown in Affleck’s trash bin. The same one was previously seen on Affleck’s lawn in June 2020, seemingly as part of a prank that his kids pulled on him.
Affleck was one of several friends and costars of Lopez who spoke highly of the entertainer.
“I thought I had a good work ethic, but I was completely humbled and blown away by what she was committed to doing day in and day out, the seriousness in which she took her work, the quiet and dedicated way she went about accomplishing her goals, and then how she would go back and redouble her efforts,” Affleck said.
The actor continued: “She remains, to this day, the hardest-working person I’ve come across in this business. She has great talent, but she has also worked very hard for her success, and I’m so happy for her that she seems, at long last, to be getting the credit she deserves.”
Joking about the singer seemingly being ageless, Affleck said, “Where are you keeping the fountain of youth? Why do you look the same as you did in 2003 and it kind of looks like I’m in my 40s…at best?”
Page Six was the first to report their breakup in March, citing an anonymous source.
The breakup was also confirmed by TMZ, E! News, and People. A source told People that the split “has been a long time coming” for the two stars.
The following day, the couple shared a joint statement with People, saying: “We are working through some things.”
In April, they announced the end of their relationship and two-year engagement via a joint statement to the “Today” show.
“We have realized we are better as friends and look forward to remaining so,” they said. “We will continue to work together and support each other on our shared businesses and projects. We wish the best for each other and one another’s children. Out of respect for them, the only other comment we have to say is thank you to everyone who has sent kind words and support.”
According to the publication, Affleck was “picked up in a white Escalade SUV that allegedly belongs to Lopez and then taken to her nearby mansion.”
Anonymous sources that spoke to People and E! News said that Lopez and Affleck were just friends.
“They have a great time hanging out,” a source told People a few days after photos were first published of the two stars in separate vehicles. “It’s been years since they caught up properly. They have lots to talk about.”
Affleck and Lopez also participated in Global Citizen’s “Vax Live: The Concert to Reunite the World,” which aired on Saturday, May 2. Lopez performed, while Affleck spoke on stage with Jimmy Kimmel. The two weren’t photographed together at the taping, which took place in California.
“They have a strong connection. It’s all been quick and intense, but Jennifer is happy,” an anonymous source told People.
Daily Mail published photographs of Lopez and Affleck in a car together in Montana, with the “Good Will Hunting” actor driving. The publication reported that Affleck owns a home in Big Sky.
According to a source that spoke to E! News, Lopez and Affleck spent about a week in Yellowstone Club in Montana, “just the two of them.”
Another source also told the publication that Affleck reached out to Lopez “to see how she was doing and they had dinner together a few times within this last month.”
“They picked up where they last left off and are enjoying each other’s company right now,” the source said.
People went on to report that Lopez was in contact with the actor prior to her breakup with Rodriguez, but “it was friendly conversations” and she didn’t meet up with Affleck until her relationship ended.
The publication also said that it was Affleck’s idea for them to go on a trip outside LA.
Amid dating speculation, Matt Damon, Affleck’s longtime best friend and collaborator, weighed in and told the “Today” show: “I hope it’s true. I love them both. I hope it’s true. That would be awesome.”
They were photographed descending a staircase together and a source told E! News that Affleck “took a red-eye to Miami and went straight to J.Lo’s new house in the early morning hours. She looked very happy to see him and they walked around the property together so she could show him around.”
Fans also speculated that Affleck had started re-wearing a watch that he often sported when he and Lopez previously dated.
The following day, they were photographed going to a gym. They were also seen on the balcony of the “On the Floor” singer’s rental home in Miami.
A source later told Us Weekly that they were full-on dating, though neither star commented on the reports.
“Jen and Ben are both very happy with each [other] and are excited to see where the relationship goes,” an anonymous source told the publication. “They are full-on dating and very happy together.”
According to Page Six, Lopez and Affleck “planned to announce their reunion in a more tightly controlled” prior to the initial photos circulated showing him reportedly visiting her house.
A source told Page Six that Lopez was originally “planning to make an announcement that they are back together on Instagram.”
Photos obtained by Page Six showed the stars walking close together as they headed to chef Wolfgang Puck’s new restaurant at the Pendry Hotel located in West Hollywood.
Days later, Affleck was photographed smiling at the paparazzi as he left Lopez’s home in a vehicle.
E! News and other publications reported that Lopez was looking into moving from Miami to LA and considering schools there for her twins to attend in the fall.
In early June, Affleck was also seen spending time at a casino in Nevada with Lopez’s mom, Guadalupe Rodríguez.
“They enjoy gambling together and have done it in the past,” a source told E! News. “Ben had the opportunity to work in Vegas this week and she came out.”
Photos and a video published by the publication showed the two stars kissing, leaning in close, and talking with each other at a table.
According to Page Six, Lopez and Affleck were having dinner at Nobu in Malibu on June 13. They were reportedly at the restaurant with Lopez’s twins to celebrate the birthday of the “Hustler” star’s sister, Lynda Lopez.
Photos of their PDA came a few days after Lopez was spotted seemingly wearing a flannel shirt that Affleck was previously photographed in.
In photos published by Page Six, they were seen at Universal Studios Hollywood on July 2 with their kids from previous relationships.
The following day, Lopez and Affleck were photographed with their arms wrapped around each other while walking in the Hamptons. They were later seen shopping with Lopez’s kids in the Hamptons.
Not long after, Lopez liked a photo posted by a fan account on Instagram called @lopezaffleck, which showed Affleck on the set of the 2010 movie “The Town.”
The “Argo” star was also photographed spending time at Universal CityWalk in Universal City, California with his kids and Lopez’s daughter named Emme.
A video recap shared by Remini included a photo of herself and Lopez hugging Affleck. Lopez also had her hand placed on the actor’s chest as he posed in the middle.
The singer posted a series of photos of herself in a swimsuit on her X and Instagram.
“5 2 … what it do …💗 📸: @lacarba,” she captioned the post. The final photo in Lopez’s Instagram post showed her and Affleck kissing.
Fans also noticed that the framed black-and-white image in the background of one of her birthday photos is the same snap of her and Affleck that was taken for his 2003 Vanity Fair feature.
In addition, the couple celebrated Lopez’s birthday with a party at L’Opera in St. Tropez, France. A video from the festivities showed Lopez singing along to her track “Jenny From the Block,” whose music video starred Affleck, as waiters danced on the tables.
They were also seen seemingly recreating a famous moment from the “Jenny From the Block” music video, in which Affleck put his hand on Lopez’s butt while on a yacht. Some fans have even speculated that the stars are recreating scenes for the music video’s upcoming 20th anniversary next year.
Beth Bugdaycay, the creative director and cofounder of Foundrae, told E! News that Affleck designed custom jewelry to gift Lopez for her birthday.
Paparazzi photos taken of Lopez shortly after her birthday showed the singer wearing a gold necklace that spelled “BEN.”
After spending time in St. Tropez, the stars were seen dining at a restaurant in Capri, Italy and walking hand-in-hand.
Lopez accompanied Affleck to the premiere of his upcoming film “The Last Duel” at the Venice Film Festival. The stars laughed, smiled, held hands, and kissed during their first red carpet appearance in 18 years.
Lopez walked the carpet solo in a Western-themed outfit from Ralph Lauren, but Affleck posed beside her for photos later at the event. They also kissed while wearing masks.
The singer posted a video on social media, recapping her trip to Venice with Affleck.
Lopez wrote: “I had such a beautiful time!! And I’m so excited for you guys to see this movie!! It’s the first script Matt and Ben have written together along with Nicole Holofcener since Good Will Hunting!! And it’s amazing!! The acting by the whole cast is fantastic. Jodie Comer plays the lead and she is awesome!!! It was a magical trip and I hope you enjoy the pics!!”
“All I can tell you is that I have seen firsthand the difference representation makes because I have seen, over and over and over and over, women of color approach Jennifer and tell her what her example as a strong woman and a woman succeeding and demanding her fair share in the business world means to them,” Affleck said in an interview with AdWeek as part of a feature on Lopez.
He continued: “I am in awe of what Jennifer’s effect on the world is. At most, as an artist, I can make movies that move people. Jennifer has inspired a massive group of people to feel they have a seat at the table in this country. That is an effect few people throughout history have had, one I will never know and one I can only stand by and admire with respect.”
They were seen holding hands at the event, where Lopez sang her hits like “Jenny From the Block” and “Love Don’t Cost a Thing.”
“Ben wanted to be by her side and attended the event. He watched her perform,” a source told People.
“She’s been working hard, and it meant a lot to her to have him there,” an anonymous Insider told E! News. “She was excited to spend the weekend with him. They went to dinner after the show and had some fun.”
The following day, paparazzi photographed them smiling while walking hand-in-hand through Madison Square Park in NYC. Additional photos posted by Entertainment Tonight and People showed the couple kissing while standing on a sidewalk.
Affleck wore a black velvet suit and Lopez chose a sparkling brown two-piece outfit.
An anonymous source told People that Lopez traveled from Vancouver, where she was filming a Netflix movie “The Mother,” to LA to spend the holiday with Affleck and her children.
“The last few weeks have been intense for her,” the source said, adding that it was difficult for Lopez to be away from her loved ones while filming in Canada.
Affleck also reportedly spent time with ex-wife Garner and their three kids.
Over Thanksgiving weekend, paparazzi also took photos of Affleck and Lopez hosting a food drive for Rise Against Hunger with the help of their daughters.
“I can say that it’s definitely beautiful to me,” Affleck coyly said.
He continued: “And, you know, one of the things I really value across all facets of my life now is that it was handled in a way that reflected that. My life now reflects not just the person that I want to be, but the person that I really feel like I am — which is not perfect, but somebody who tries very hard and cares very much about being honest and authentic and accountable.”
The actor further teased their relationship by saying: “It’s a great story. And, you know, maybe one day I’ll tell it. I’ll write it all out. And then I’ll light it on fire.”
Affleck also alluded to marrying Lopez, but he didn’t give further details.
“The most important thing is being a good father,” he said. “The second most important thing is to be a good man. And a good person. And, ostensibly, you know, a good husband. Hopefully.”
Affleck stars in the movie, which is directed by George Clooney.
“The truth about that movie and what it taught me was how much everything around a movie sort of dictates the way people see it,” Affleck said during a conversation with Matt Damon for EW.
“The studio at the time, because I had begun having this relationship with Jennifer Lopez, which was selling a lot of magazines and appeared to generate a lot of enthusiasm, they just predictably latched onto, ‘They want a romantic comedy. They want the two of them together. More of that!'” he continued.
Affleck said that the reaction to “Gigli” made him question his career, but it also led him to discover his passion for directing.
“So in those ways, it’s a gift,” he said. “And I did get to meet Jennifer, the relationship with whom has been really meaningful to me in my life.”
Lopez spoke in depth about her relationship with Affleck in an interview with People, saying: “I feel so lucky and happy and proud to be with him.”
She called their relationship a “healthy” one and said that she’s “so proud of the man he’s become that I’ve watched from afar.”
“To see the person, the human being, the man that he is today, the father that he is today, the partner that he is — he is so everything I always knew he was and wanted to be,” she said.
“It’s a beautiful love story that we got a second chance,” the “Marry Me” star continued, explaining that the two stars were “naïve” when they dated in the early 2000s.
Comparing their current relationship to their former one, the entertainer said that now, “there’s more of an appreciation and a celebration for it.”
“When you find somebody and you really, really love them and you get a second chance at that? That is a really rare, precious, beautiful thing and we don’t take it for granted,” she said.
“I won’t talk about it a lot,” she said. “We’ve both grown. We’re the same, and we’re different. And that’s what’s nice.”
Lopez said that they “learned a lot” from their past relationship.
“We know what’s real, what’s not real,” she said. “So it’s just — the game has changed. Again, I’m trying not to say too much.”
The singer also spoke about the “brutal” criticism she faced at the time.
“It’s funny because Ben and I were together, and we were so in love,” she said. “It was one of the happiest times of my life. But also, there was this other thing happening where we were being criticized, and it really destroyed our relationship from the inside out, because we were just too young to understand at that time what were really the most important things in life.”
Lopez also said that she doesn’t think she and Affleck will break up again.
“I don’t think we would have got back together if we thought that was where it was headed,” she said. ”We feel like what we found again is so much more important, and how we protect that and how we live our lives — what to share, what not to share — is the balance that we have now, the benefit of experience and the wisdom that we gained over the years.”
The red carpet was held in Los Angeles and Affleck kissed the side of Lopez’s head as they posed for photos.
Lopez also told Entertainment Tonight that Affleck had already seen the movie, so the premiere was “a great date night” for the couple.
“I don’t think anybody was more surprised than us,” Lopez said. “No, you never could imagine something like that could happen. It’s a beautiful thing.”
Lopez shared the news with fans in her newsletter, On the JLo. Affleck directed the video, which included footage of the couple set to her new song “On My Way.”
“I am going to share something very special and personal with you that normally that I would only share with my inner circle,” Lopez said. “It’s an early Valentine’s Day present from Ben. Watching it made me think about the journey of true love, its unexpected twists and turns, and that when it’s real, it actually can last forever.”
“This seriously melted my heart,” she added.
Affleck’s face was never shown in the music video for Lopez and Maluma’s ballad, but he was visible in brief scenes.
Affleck was seen smiling and applauding Lopez, with her daughter Emme and his son Samuel standing with him.
In her speech, Lopez thanked her fans for their unwavering support throughout her career.
“Because of you, I get to do what I love the most in life and that is the most wonderful blessing,” she said. “That’s a gift that you give me and I just want to say thank you for that. Thank you to everyone who comes to a show, streams a song, sees a movie, follows me.”
She added: “You guys are the ones who give me the opportunity every day to live a life I couldn’t even imagine would come true when I was a little girl growing up in the Bronx.”
The official engagement news came a day after TMZ published photos that showed Lopez wearing a diamond ring on her left hand while furniture shopping that week with her daughter Emme.
According to the publication, the musician appeared to try to conceal the ring once she became aware of the paparazzi.
Lopez posted a short video on her Instagram and Twitter accounts with the caption: “Major announcement!!!!”
In her newsletter, she wrote: “True love exists and forever is real…”
In the video shared as part of her newsletter, Lopez was seen looking at her engagement ring, which consists of a green stone set in a silver band.
In another newsletter, Lopez revealed that Affleck proposed while she was taking a bubble bath (which she called “my favorite place on earth”).
“I was taken totally off guard and just looked in his eyes smiling and crying at the same time trying hard to get my head around the fact that after 20 years this was happening all over again, I was quite literally speechless and he said, ‘Is that a yes?’ I said YES of course that’s a YES,” Lopez recalled.
She continued: “I was smiling so big and tears were coming down my face, feeling so incredibly happy and whole. It was nothing fancy at all, but it was the most romantic thing I could’ve ever imagined…just a quiet Saturday night at home, two people promising to always be there for each other. Two very lucky people. Who got a second chance at true love.”
Regarding the color of the gem, Lopez said “green has always been my lucky color and now, for sure, it always will be.”
Lopez appeared at the event to accept the Generation Award.
During her emotional speech, Lopez spoke about her acting career and said that she’s connected to the characters she’s portrayed. She also thanked “the people who gave me joy, and the ones who broke my heart.”
“The ones who were true and the ones who lied to me,” she continued. “I want to thank true love and I want to thank the way that I lied to myself because that’s how I knew I had to grow. I want to thank disappointment and failure for teaching me to be strong.”
Then she mentioned her loved ones, saying “Ben and everybody at home, hi! Wait for me to have dinner, I’ll be home by 7!”
In a video posted on X and Instagram, the singer shared a montage of photos and videos of the couple.
Lopez elaborated on her feelings for Affleck in her newsletter, On the JLo, writing: “I have had a front-row seat to watching how you father for over a year now and I have never seen more consistent, loving and selfless father.”
She continued: “And it’s not just to your own kids but also without obligation to mine as well. You show up and put them first always. You are affectionate and engaged in every moment they are with you and it’s honestly one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen.”
“Thank you for all you do for all of us. We appreciate and love you beyond measure,” Lopez concluded.
“We did it,” Lopez wrote in her newsletter. “Love is beautiful. Love is kind. And it turns out love is patient. Twenty years patient.”
The “Marry Me” star said that the nuptials were “exactly what we wanted.” She said that the couple flew to Vegas the prior night and waited in line for a marriage license.
“We barely made it to the Little White Wedding Chapel by midnight,” Lopez wrote. “They graciously stayed open late a few minutes, let us take pictures in a pink Cadillac convertible, evidently once used by the king himself (but if we wanted Elvis himself to show, that cost extra and he was in bed).”
Lopez said their wedding included “the best witnesses you could ever imagine, a dress from an old movie, and a jacket from Ben’s closet.”
“In the end, it was the best possible wedding we could have imagined,” she wrote. “One we dreamed of long ago and one made real (in the eyes of the state, Las Vegas, a pink convertible and one another) at very, very long last.”
The singer also called it the “best night of our lives.”
“They were right when they said, ‘all you need is love.’ We are so grateful to have that in abundance, a new wonderful family of five amazing children, and a life that we have never had more reason to look forward to,” Lopez said.
“Love is a great thing, maybe the best of things-and worth waiting for,” she concluded, signing the note as Mrs. Jennifer Lynn Affleck.
Lopez shared a series of photos from their wedding day in the newsletter and posted a make-up-free photo of herself showing off her wedding band on X.
A few days later, Lopez shared several photos of her three Ralph Lauren wedding dresses, which she called “dreamy.” Further details about their wedding weekend, from the rehearsal dinner to the ceremony to the reception, were revealed in another newsletter.
Lopez said that during Affleck’s wedding reception speech, he quoted a line that he wrote for a film he directed called “Live By Night:” “This is heaven. Right Here. We’re in it now.”
Lopez said it’s “one of my favorite lines” and thought it was “perfect” for their wedding.
She also said that their wedding weekend had “unexpected setbacks,” including rain “every day that week” and everyone catching “a stomach bug.”
Lopez said that she and Affleck “laughed the night before about getting married again at our age.”
The singer said that on their wedding day, “the sun broke free and cast its rays like little diamonds dancing across the river behind the makeshift altar in our backyard.”
Lopez said that she walked down the aisle as Marc Cohn performed “The Things We’ve Handed Down,” with their combined five kids following her.
“The 20 years between those dreams of youth and the adult world of love and family we embraced that day, brought more to this marriage than either of us ever could have imagined,” she said. “We weren’t only marrying one another; we were marrying these children into a new family. They were the only people we asked to stand up for us in our wedding party. To our great honor and joy, each one did.”
“Some old wounds were healed that day and the weight of the past finally lifted off our shoulders,” she added. Full-circle — and not at all the way we planned it. Better.”
Lopez said that for her and Affleck, “this was perfect timing.”
“Years ago, we had no idea the road ahead would mean navigating so many labyrinths and hold so many surprises, blessings, and delights,” she wrote. “It all culminated in this moment, one of the most perfect of our lives. We couldn’t have been happier.”
A leaked video from their wedding, which Lopez said was “taken without permission,” also showed the performer singing a new song for Affleck.
“I don’t know where you all are getting it from bc we had NDAs and asked everyone to not share anything from our wedding,” she said on Instagram. “That is our choice to share.”
In response to the backlash Lopez received for taking Affleck’s last name, the “Hustlers” star said that she viewed it as a “power move.”
“I’m very much in control of my own life and destiny and feel empowered as a woman and as a person,” she said. “I can understand that people have their feelings about it, and that’s OK, too. But if you want to know how I feel about it, I just feel like it’s romantic. It still carries tradition and romance to me, and maybe I’m just that kind of girl.”
Lopez also reflected on her and Affleck being “carefree” and “so young and so in love” when they dated in the early 2000s.
“It didn’t feel like we needed to hide from anybody or be real discreet,” she said. “We were just living out loud, and it turned out to really bite us.”
Lopez said that she and Affleck reconnected after he reached out via email letting her know that he spoke highly of her when asked to provide a comment for a cover story for InStyle on her.
“I never shied away from the fact that for me, I always felt like there was a real love there, a true love there,” she said. “People in my life know that he was a very, very special person in my life. When we reconnected, those feelings for me were still very real.”
Lopez said that she wouldn’t recommend her and Affleck’s path to everyone.
“Sometimes you outgrow each other, or you just grow differently,” she said. “The two of us, we lost each other and found each other.”
Affleck also shared heartfelt words about Lopez, saying that “there is something innately, magically kind and good and full of love at the heart of who Jennifer is.”
“That’s exactly the person I remember from 20 years ago,” he continued. “Maybe she sees all the changes she’s made, whereas when I see her, mostly I just see someone who has retained, against the odds, the thing about her that always made her the most incredible to me: a heart that seems boundless with love. She is my idea of the kind of person I want to be.”
In an interview with Zane Lowe for Apple Music 1, Lopez said that her previous album “This Is Me…Then,” inspired by their relationship, “captured a time where I fell in love with the love of my life.”
“He loves that album,” Lopez said of Affleck. “He loves that music. He knows all of the words.”
“He also was with me while I was creating it,” she added. “He’s my biggest fan, which is awesome.”
Lopez said that she couldn’t perform those songs following their first split because “it was so painful.”
“Once we called off that wedding 20 years ago, it was the biggest heartbreak of my life, and I honestly felt like I was going to die,” she said.
Lopez said that she found songwriting difficult during that period and “didn’t make music in that way that I did in 2002 until now.”
“It set me on a spiral for the next 18 years where I just couldn’t get it right,” she said. “But now, 20 years later, it does have a happy ending. It has the most would-never-happen-in-Hollywood ending.”
In the same interview, Lopez also revealed that Affleck got the phrase “Not. Going. Anywhere” inscribed on her second engagement ring, “because that’s how he would sign his emails when we started talking again. Like, ‘Don’t worry, I’m not going anywhere.'”
According to Entertainment Tonight, their celebration was attended by stars like Kim Kardashian, Doja Cat, Vanessa Hudgens, and Jane Fonda.
Photos and videos posted online by attendees revealed that the home was decked out with lights and food stations, and guests were entertained by Lopez and Affleck singing John Legend’s “By Christmas Eve” together.
During an appearance on “Jimmy Kimmel Live,” Lopez recalled their elopement at A White Chapel in Vegas.
“It’s funny because there’s a pink Cadillac there, and when I came back I was working on this album,” she said. “And when we came back from getting married that weekend, I wrote a whole song about that and that pink Cadillac is in the song. It’s a really good song called ‘Midnight Trip to Vegas.'”
Her album will also feature a song called “Dear Ben Pt. II,” a follow-up to a track from “This Is Me… Then.”
Elsewhere in the interview, Lopez also said that she’s learned to “embrace” the couple’s joint nickname, Bennifer.
“I think years ago it was kind of like ‘Oh man.’ Actually it wasn’t a bad thing even years ago. But I think people… It became a thing where people made fun of it,” she said. “But then it continued throughout the years – other people were doing it.”
“We moved in together, the kids moved in together,” she said during an appearance on the “Today” show. “So it’s been a really kind of emotional transition. But at the same time, all your dreams coming true, and it’s just been a phenomenal year.”
Lopez went on to call it “my best year I think since my kids were born.”
Lopez was in attendance to present the first award of the night, for best pop vocal album.
Throughout the show, whenever the cameras cut to her and Affleck, the actor often seemed disinterested, unfazed, and unamused by the festivities.
Lopez, however, seemed like she was in her element. Following the awards show, she posted a recap video on Instagram with the caption: “Always the best time with my love, my husband.”
Affleck, a big fan of the company, finally collaborated with Dunkin’ for a commercial in which he dressed as an employee and took customer orders at a drive-thru location in his home state of Massachusetts.
Then, Lopez pulls up to the window and says, “What are you doing? Is that what you do when you say you’re going to work all day?”
Lopez shared a series of photos of her and Affleck on Instagram to celebrate the holiday.
“Commitment,” she captioned the post, adding an infinity sign emoji. “Happy Valentine’s Day my love.”
Lopez also teased that more details would be included in a future edition of her fan newsletter, On the JLo, and included the hashtag “#CommitmentIsSexy.”
The first image in the post revealed a fresh tattoo that Lopez got on her ribcage, of her and Affleck’s names written in an infinity symbol with an arrow going through the shape.
Another photo showed Affleck’s tattoo, which is a little different. His design features the initials “J” and “B” between two cross arrows, held together by a string.
Affleck directed and starred in the film, which centered on Michael Jordan’s legendary shoe deal with Nike.
Affleck and Lopez were affectionate at the premiere, which was held at the Regency Village Theatre in LA. The singer also documented the event on Instagram, sharing a video compilation of highlights from the premiere.
Before the film was screened, Affleck gave shout-outs to his longtime friend and collaborator Matt Damon as well as Lopez.
“None of it would be possible — this company, this movie, this joy tonight — without the love and support of my wife, who means more to me than anything in the world,” Affleck said, per The Hollywood Reporter. “I want to say thank you. I love you. You mean the world to me. You’re fabulous, you’re amazing, you’re wonderful, good, kind, magnificent, and I love you.”
“I do love her music and it’s brilliant and I know all of it,” Affleck said during an appearance on the podcast “SmartLess,” cohosted by Jason Bateman, Sean Haynes, and Will Arnett.
“The songs that have been written about me have been written by the greatest performer in the history of the world, Jennifer Lopez, “Affleck said of serving as inspiration for some of her tracks. “I don’t know if they are exactly about me, as maybe inspired by me because there are some negative things in there. She’s amazing.”
“It takes a big man not to feel inadequate in the face of my wife’s many, many accomplishments,” he added. “I don’t feel bad about myself.”
Lopez starred as a mom trying to protect her daughter whom she gave up for adoption in the Netflix action movie. The premiere took place in LA at the Westwood Regency Village Theater.
Affleck reprised his role as Bruce Wayne/Batman in the film, which starred Ezra Miller as the titular DC Comics speedster.
Lopez shared a shirtless photo of Affleck, selfies of the couple, and videos of them together.
“Daddy Appreciation Post,” she captioned her posts on X and Instagram. “Happy Father’s Day Papa. And Happy Father’s Day to all the amazing Papas out there!! We love you and appreciate you more than you will ever know.”
Paparazzi snapped photos of Lopez and Affleck outside the Santa Monica restaurant Giorgio Baldi, where they had dinner.
In her newsletter, Lopez went on to share the full lyrics and video snippet of her upcoming song “Midnight Trip to Vegas,” based on the pair’s nuptials.
“Thank you all for the birthday love,” Lopez wrote in her newsletter. “Here’s a lil peek into my party. Ben hosted it at our new house with our closest family and friends. All the kids were there, it was a gorgeous day full of sunshine and perfect for a pool party!!”
“I felt so appreciated and acknowledged by my loved ones, and I’m extremely grateful to be where I am today at this point in my life’s journey with so many beautiful, caring people to share it all with,” she added, attaching videos and photos of her birthday celebration.
“Dear Ben … Happy Birthday,” Lopez captioned the video, shared on Instagram. “I love you!”
One candid photo showed Lopez and Affleck smiling while wearing all-white attire on their wedding day. In the other image, the couple kissed with fireworks going off in the background.
In her caption, Lopez shared lyrics from “Dear Ben Part II,” which will be part of her forthcoming album titled “This Is Me… Now.”
“Dear Ben, Sitting here alone, Looking at my ring ring, Feeling overwhelmed. It makes me wanna sing sing. How did we end up here, Without a rewind. Oh my, This is my life…,” Lopez wrote.
That evening, Affleck’s film was nominated for best motion picture, musical or comedy.
During a red carpet interview with Entertainment Tonight, Lopez reacted to fans’ concern over Affleck’s viral facial expressions.
“Ben is doing all right. You don’t need to worry about Ben, let me just tell you,” Lopez said. “He is good. He is happy. He is here, he is nominated. I’m chilling, I don’t understand what people are so pressed for.”
Her ninth studio album included songs like “Dear Ben Pt. II,” a followup to a track from her album “This Is Me… Then” about her relationship with Affleck.
Lopez also released a semi-autobiographical film on Prime Video called “This Is Me… Now: A Love Story.” The movie, which Lopez cowrote, included a cameo from Affleck looking unrecognizable as a fictional news anchor named Rex Stone.
Then, on February 27, she released a documentary on Prime Video called “The Greatest Love Story Never Told,” which gave fans a behind-the-scenes look at how her album and film came together. The title was also named after a scrapbook that Affleck gifted Lopez for Christmas in 2021, which included every letter and email they wrote to each other.
“Things that are private I always felt are sacred and special because, in part, they’re private,” Affleck said in the documentary. “So this was something of an adjustment for me.”
“I did really find the beauty and the poetry and the irony in the fact that it’s the greatest love story never told,” Affleck said. “If you’re making a record about it, that seems kind of like telling it.”
Despite being a “reluctant” participant in the documentary, Affleck supported Lopez at the LA premiere at the Dolby Theatre on February 13.
The album, film, and documentary were all self-financed by Lopez at $20 million, Variety reported.
Lopez also told Variety that she and Affleck’s previous breakup was necessary.
“Our relationship crumbled under the weight of the pressure,” Lopez said. “We lost a sense of ourselves, and we needed to separate because we didn’t know how to survive it. I had to figure myself out, and he had to figure himself out.”
Speculation about Affleck and Lopez’s relationship started in early May as both attended high-profile events without each other.
Affleck showed up to Netflix’s “The Roast of Tom Brady” solo, while Lopez went to the Met Gala without the actor. TMZ also reported that Lopez was spotted house-hunting in LA with her producing partner, Elaine Goldsmith-Thomas, sans Affleck.
Then People magazine reported that the couple hadn’t been photographed publicly together in 47 days. That same day, In Touch published paparazzi photos of Lopez and Affleck supporting their kids in LA.
Us Weekly went on to report that the stars were “having issues in their marriage,” but not breaking up.
“They started having issues a few months ago as Jen had started ramping up work commitments and prepping for her tour,” a source said.
The publication reported that Lopez was recently looking at a home in LA as an investment.
A source also told People that Affleck was living separately from Lopez while filming “The Accountant 2” and that the couple didn’t spend Mother’s Day together.
Rumors continued throughout May, despite Affleck and Lopez being spotted together on various outings and wearing their wedding rings.
Lopez attended the premiere of her Netflix sci-fi movie “Atlas” solo while Affleck was busy filming the sequel to “The Accountant.” A source told People that their marriage was “not in the best place at the moment.”
Days later at a press junket for the film in Mexico City, a reporter was shut down after asking, “Is your divorce from Ben Affleck real?”
“OK, we’re not doing that,” Simu Liu, Lopez’s “Atlas” costar, said to the reporter. “Thank you so much. We really appreciate it.”
“You know better than that,” Lopez said.
“Come on, don’t come in here with that energy,” Liu added.
Live Nation announced that Lopez’s US summer 2024 tour was canceled. “Jennifer is taking time off to be with her children, family and close friends,'” read an announcement in Lopez’s newsletter.
“I am completely heartsick and devastated about letting you down,” Lopez said in her message to fans. “Please know that I wouldn’t do this if I didn’t feel that it was absolutely necessary. I promise I will make it up to you and we will all be together again. I love you all so much. Until next time…”
Prior to the cancellation, the tour was quietly rebranded from “This Is Me… Now” to “This Is Me… Live | The Greatest Hits.” According to Variety, some of the previous shows on the tour were canceled due to poor ticket sales. Billboard reported that dates were canceled because of routing issues.
On July 11, Lopez and Affleck’s $61 million Beverly Hills mansion was publicly listed on multiple realtor sites for $68 million, confirming their intentions to sell the shared home.
Per The Wall Street Journal, they bought the home, which has 12 bedrooms and 24 bathrooms, in May 2023 after they got married.
On July 30, People reported that Affleck bought a new house in LA for $20.5 million on Lopez’s birthday (July 24). People reported, citing multiple unnamed sources, that Affleck skipped Lopez’s birthday party.
After months of speculation that they had split, multiple outlets reported that Lopez filed for divorce from Affleck, with TMZ breaking the news.
Citing court documents, TMZ reported that Lopez filed to represent herself in court without a lawyer, waived her claim to spousal support, and requested the judge do the same for Affleck.
TMZ also reported, citing the document, that Lopez listed the separation as April 26, before rumors about their split began to circulate.
Paparazzi snapped photos of the two stars meeting for lunch in Beverly Hills with Affleck’s kids, Seraphina and Samuel, and Lopez’s twins, Max and Emme. This marked Lopez and Affleck’s first appearance together since she filed for divorce.
According to a source who spoke to Page Six and claimed to be present during the reunion, Lopez and Affleck were “holding hands and kissing” at the Polo Lounge. The source added that the kids were “at a separate table.”
However, a source told People that the meet-up was just friendly.
“They all came together for a fun lunch so the kids could hang out,” the source said, adding that the stars are continuing divorce proceedings and “working out financial details amicably.”
“A divorce is never easy, but Jennifer doesn’t want to be selfish about it,” the source added. “The kids always got along and have fun together. It makes her happy seeing the kids happy together. Happy kids are her priority.”
This article was originally published by Olivia Singh,Ayomikun Adekaiyero at All Content from Business Insider (https://www.businessinsider.com/jennifer-lopez-ben-affleck-relationship-timeline-photos).
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